Life is about experiencing new things and learning to be happy, healthy, positive, helpful, caring, calm, and content. Those are my priorities and goals.
What would we learn if life were to go in only one preferred direction? Your lesssons may be entitlement, arrogance, lack of empathy, a self-centered mind, and lack of life knowledge.
Yet the reality is much different. Wonderful experiences happen in one moment, which can be followed by an unpleasant and confusing one shortly after.
How you respond to pleasant and negative situations is what keeps a balanced, clear, and controlled mind.
Positive and negative experiences happen all the time
These can be minor or major incidences.
The one big life lesson I’ve learned over time is that nothing is ever as bad as it may first seem. Everything can be overcome or solved, if you set your mind to it and remain optimistic.
On the downside:
You get your phone stolen — sure, that sucks, but it’s replaceable.
If someone cuts you off driving and you crash, that isn’t good. But as long as you’re alive, you can pick up the pieces and move on.
Your house gets broken into — another unpleasant experience. But that, too, will pass.
You fall in love and trust someone too quickly — it turns out they are not who you thought they were.
That’s life, not the end of the world — so pick yourself up, learn from the mistake, move on, and be more careful next time.
On the upside:
You get a big promotion or write a best-selling book and make much more money. That’s great, but don’t overvalue that sensation, either. Instead, keep it within reason, remain modest, and focus on your next move.
You are suddenly getting lots of praise and compliments for your achievements. Of course, that’s always a wonderful feeling, but don’t let it go to your head — there’s always another challenge ahead, and things can again turn south within a few seconds.
Things are smooth sailing, and everything is falling into place — great! But, be careful — there may be a deep pot-hole waiting for you around the next corner.
Stay cautious and aware – and always expect the unexpected!
Choose your response wisely
If a completely unexpected and shocking situation suddenly hits you, staying calm and thinking before reacting is vital.
Those occurrences can easily send your brain into “panic mode,“ meaning you’ll only make things worse and not solve a thing.
Staying focused and in control in the face of adversity is the solution to almost all problems.
A calm and clear mind can compute the challenge rationally while leaving confusing emotions out of the equation. It’s not easy to do, but it can be if you stay rational, calm, and focused.
If you respond with anger, you’re only hurting yourself while giving someone the satisfaction of thinking they got to your mind, made you mad, and won.
It’s hard to read people
People can turn from being lovely to nasty without warning. That’s human nature, and there’s nothing you can do about it other than to be aware of this possibility instead of being naive.
You thought the best of someone, trusted and felt safe around them — it felt wonderful. But then they suddenly changed and showed their true colors.
Be grateful — you’ve been given a free pass to walk away.
Again, these can be minor or significant encounters. It can happen at any time.
Everyone is unpredictable. Unfortunately, few people you’ll ever meet are honest, genuine, and have your best interests in mind.
That being said, some do — so keep looking and never give up.
And that’s why it’s equally important never to be pessimistic and overly skeptical.
Give the benefit of the doubt, a second chance, but go more slowly and set boundaries.
You choose your destiny
You can’t make everyone happy — if you try, you’ll make yourself unhappy.
It’s better to stop trying to please. Instead, respect your values, principles, and autonomy and be honest with people about what you want and who you are!
The good people will then follow you – the bad will give up and leave you alone, as they will realize they cannot get into your mind and harm you.
Nobody cares how difficult your life or situation is — everyone has their own problems and struggles.
That’s why you must look after yourself and invest in your physical and mental health – because nobody else will.
Looking after you first and foremost isn’t being selfish. It’s the most worthwhile thing you can do for yourself and others.
Give your mind peace — you deserve it.
Be careful who you spend your time with. Instead, try spending a lot of time with yourself, creating the life of your dreams by taking actions that stimulate your mind and make you feel good.
Choose wisely what you do with your time. It’s not endless.
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Life will always consist of positives and negatives — keeping things in perspective is the key to success and happiness.
That’s life and what the human brain needs to learn to navigate situations more effectively with less friction and for better outcomes.
Most things are out of your control, so don’t try to control them. Instead, focus on yourself, your goals, and your dreams, and make them come true!
Process challenging times calmly, then lock that memory away in a little box deep in your mind and get back to what matters.
MBA from Robert Kennedy College & University of Cumbria, UK.
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