Is Your Reality The Truth Or Fantasy? How To Identify Scary Schizophrenic, And Manic Bipolar People

Pay close attention to these warning signs — getting trapped in relationships of any type with this kind is a nightmare.

I’m a social person and like interacting with people. I enjoy talking to random people I meet in the streets or cafes.

In other words — I’m an open-minded and easygoing soul.

I’ll listen, give advice, or support if needed. That’s just how I am and always have been — an open book.

That may sound all well and good — however, my growth and sharing mindset has caused plenty of setbacks and some difficult situations in my life.

My main problem is that I trust people too quickly. Often I’ve trusted them immediately and blindly without thinking twice.

Unless someone is a total dumb ass to your face or online, I will always give them the benefit of the doubt and allow a relationship to unfold — personal or business.

Discovering behavioral and mental health disorders takes time

That is the primary lesson I’ve learned from my mistakes. Jumping into any relationship without keeping your guard up is very risky.

From what I’ve learned, it takes at least 1 month or 2 to see the person’s true colors.

It may not sound long, but it can feel like ages if you like someone and are thinking about getting personal with that guy or gal.

Schizophrenia — manic depression — bipolar disease – are serious mental health problems!

These are all somewhat different conditions, yet they manifest themselves similarly.

It always starts with denial. That’s red flag number one.

When the person has said or done something and the next day is in denial, you can be 90% sure you’re dealing with someone unstable.

Here are a couple of my life examples:

Schizophrenia Definition:

“Schizophrenia is a serious mental disorder in which people interpret reality abnormally.” Mayoclinic.org

One night at a restaurant I still own 25% of in Bali, my business partner and majority shareholder walked in half drunk (more than half). He sat at the table where I was entertaining 2 guests after hours.

My guests were guzzling wine, which meant sales. I was happy to do my job and entertain.

One of them started giving my partner a little grief about how he treated me.

He said I should be paid more — I do a great job, and so on. I tried to stop him from yapping, but he was too wasted to listen.

My partner immediately fell into a rage and made up his mind that I’d been trash-talking him to these guys. Of course, that was not at all true.

So, he gets up and throws wine glasses at my face from close range. I was shocked but managed to dodge the wine glass assault.

But when he grabbed the wine bottle and came running to hit me on the head, I had to jump under a table to escape.

Luckily, the 2 security guards soon grabbed him, hauled him to a car, and took him home.

That was a scary moment and could have ended my life.

The next day I was weary of meeting him in the restaurant. I texted him, asking if he was ok and did he remember what he had done to me the night before.

His reply?

“What are you talking about? I didn’t do anything to you. Stop making up stories and come to work.”

That’s when I knew he had schizophrenia and was a dangerous man.

Once you’ve uncovered a person with schizophrenia, their pattern becomes more evident by the day.

How can you deal with these people? The short answer is You Can’t!

The only thing left for you to do is run for the door and hope never to meet again. These people are dangerous and can quickly fly off the handle, which can cause long-lasting physical and mental damage.

Bipolar disorder definition:

“Bipolar disorder, formerly called manic depression, is a mental health condition that causes extreme mood swings that include emotional highs (mania or hypomania) and lows (depression). Mayoclinic.org

Formerly known as “manic depression!” They should have changed the name to “manic bipolar depression disorder” to clarify this awful condition.

The word bipolar means nothing to most. It does not depict the state these folks get themselves into while dragging you down their rabbit hole and mentally exhausted.

Here’s how this usually goes down:

I would have a wonderful day out with my girl, walking and drinking coffee in her favorite coffee shop in the morning. Then we would spend a couple of hours working on our separate projects but sitting together.

I like to move about and change places during the day. This makes me more creative. I always try to move my body for 30 minutes after sitting down and writing — that’s part of my healthy lifestyle — I move a lot daily!

Most days, we would then head to one of our favorite resorts with beautiful gardens and a big swimming pool.

We’d swim together, I may do a small workout or swim sprint, and we return to work while sitting in our little paradise.

It sounds like a perfect day, right? That’s precisely what it was, flawless!

At sunset, we drive home; I drop her off at the house and go shopping for groceries for our dinner.

45 minutes later, when I was back, she was in a foul mood and won’t talk to me.

The dialogue is like a broken record:

Me:

“What’s wrong now, baby?”

Her:

“Nothing; I’m tired and don’t want to talk.”

So the stonewalling evening begins.

I make a lovely meal for us; she eats, staring at her plate, and nothing is said.

You can imagine how annoying and uncomfortable these moments are.

Next, off to bed, she goes. No good night, no nothing.

The following day we get up together, and I make coffee. She’s happy as can be and thinks nothing was wrong the night before.

When I want to talk about it and explain that it was another painful and emotionally draining evening for me, she shrugs her shoulders and repeats herself:

“Nothing happened; I was just tired. You need to respect that!”

That’s when I say, wow, shake my head, and walk away.

Let me tell you. On this occasion, I walked away and won’t come back. I gave her 3 chances.

As the saying goes:

“3 strikes and you’re out!”

It’s not worth the ongoing pain to be with someone like that.

How can you deal with a manic bipolar case?

You can’t if they refuse to see a doctor or get therapy and medication. I begged her to do that. She agreed but never followed through.

So, I’m gone.

Final Thoughts

I believe that most people are good, kind, and caring. My positive growth mindset has often trapped me and caused me a lot of grief.

However, I won’t give up believing in people’s good side.

What I am doing now is being much more careful, spending most of my time alone, working, walking, swimming, and working out, all of which I do in nature.

That makes me very calm, productive, and happy — how I like to be.

Be best friends with yourself for a while, and take it slow when meeting new folks.

That’s my plan, Stan!

Rob

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